Some Guidelines for Making New Year Resolutions:
The basic ground rules for making effective and hope-filled resolutions is to avoid the extremes- to avoid making them too easy or too difficult. The first extreme asks too little or almost nothing more from us than going through the motions and being willing to receive a small satisfaction from their accomplishments. The other extreme of difficulty programs in failure, encourages disappointment, or excuse-making when most of us are in need of affirmation, more self knowledge, and a greater ability to empathize with what we most need to do for ourselves and our world. The best approach to resolution making is to choose ones that make us stretch, but that will not break us, resolutions that assist our growth and learning without intimidation or being too easy.
Some years, the tasks and resolutions we choose have a different theme or intensity to them. As a part of change, growth, and the cycles of our human experience, some years our resolutions will be intensely personal. Other times in our lives, our resolutions will be more community based or motivated by larger aims and goals. Some years will focus on personal behavior, relational shifts and changes, or career objectives. However you choose them or will choose to express them to yourself and to others, there can become an indication of what will be happening in your life this year.
As an exercise in fulfilling our hopes and dreams, be sure to choose no more than 3 things you wish to focus on in the coming months… Be sure to make your goals workable, and with sincere effort, attainable so that you can avoid unnecessary discouragement or failure…
Enlist the support of role models and trusted advisors… While receiving support and guidance from your family and friends, that choice is not without its hazards! In some of the latest studies, as just one example, having fat friends or chubby family members, helps you to gain weight! Unless you choose a “buddy” system, where both family members or friends commit equally to the goals, it could derail your best personal plans!
Choose people you truly admire, or people whose accomplishments are in the area you are trying to achieve, let them inspire you! Consult experts in the designated area, be they organizational people who help you with clutter or work routines, or nutritionists, or family therapists, or clergy and other spiritual guides… The best guidelines is this: If they have been able to do it for themselves, they will be better coaches or guides than if they only have the right words…
Lastly, no matter how you decide on change, growth, awareness, etc., in the final appraisal or result, its up to you- your perceptions, discipline, understanding, strength, etc…… Please remember, change or improvement is no an easy journey… there are often some side steps or fall backs along the way…. Don’t quit! rest and relax… take some time off if you need to, but stay with your vision of yourself, and the goals your heart wishes to attain! Blessings!
On Life’s Purpose by Henry David Thoreau
I wish to begin this [year] well; to do something in it that is worthy of it and me; to transcend my daily routine; to have my immortality now; in the quality of my daily life. May I dare as I have never done. May I attain to a youth never attained. I am eager to report the glory of the universe; may I be worthy of it, for it is [only] reasonable that we should be more worthy [of life] at the end of each year, than at its beginning.
Harry Emerson Fosdick
[Nobody ever finds a life worth living. One has to make it worth living. All the people to whom life has been abundantly worth living have made it so by [making] an interior, creative, and spiritual contribution of their own back to life and to others.
Is life worth living? Most people seem to think that is a question about the Cosmos, or about God. No, my friends, that is a question about the inside attitude of you and me.]
It’s time that we understand our role as stewards of this planet, That we respect and honor the delicate balance of our world
It’s time that we realize, “We are all one people”, That separateness is an illusion and that, in truth, we are all connected.
It’s time that we see past the veil of illusion called separateness, and understand just how connected we really are,
That we are all made from the same substance of the universe, and by harming another we are only harming ourselves.
It’s time that we see past the color of one’s skin or the name of one’s God, That we realize we are merely traveling parallel paths leading up the same mountain.
It’s time that we stop searching for happiness outside ourselves, That we turn our attention inward and tune into the calm peace of our soul.
It’s time that we take responsibility for making the world a better place, That we strengthen the foundation of our communities by being of good character.
It’s time that we ask, “how can I make a difference?”, That we leave this world in a little better shape than when we arrived
It’s time that we listen to each other with empathy and compassion, That we overcome the fear in our mind so that we can experience the love in our heart.
It’s time that we get past our ego and discover our innate spiritual essence, That we realize our selfish desires and serve humankind unconditionally, with love.
It’s time that we “Love all, serve all”, That we be at peace.